Here we are officially in wedding season, the unofficial 5th season of the year, and one of my personal favourites. I love, love, love weddings. The dress, the venue, the flowers….there are so many reasons why, the list goes on. I am now at the age where most of my friends have already tied the knot and I do find myself attending more baby showers than bridal showers, however I have attended many weddings over the years and attended in all capacities, emcee, bridesmaid, maid-of-honour, guest and bride. Each one wonderful and special, and each one coming with its own unique set of responsibilities. Here are a few tips for each role, learned over the years, (some the hard way), on how to be exactly who and what the bride and groom need you to be on their special day.
The bride & groom have entrusted you with the task of keeping the evening structured and the guests organized, so the number one rule for you is be prepared and be organized. Do your homework before the big day. You are the time keeper of the evening so keeper’ flowing. Humour is OK and even welcomed, although not at the expense of the bride or groom. Bringing up old flames or drunken nights in uni can be entertaining but does Aunt Beth really need to hear these stories? Probably not. Keep it clean, keep it classy. It’s nice to invite guests to say a few words, but set parameters, the cocktail reception beverages are setting in and it’s a good idea to get the guests fed.
Every girl who is asked to be a bridesmaid needs to constantly recite the following mantra, “it’s not about me.” It is an honour to be asked to stand beside your friend as she exchanges vows, she has asked you because you are someone she loves, trusts and can count on. Be the support she needs. Keep your comments on the dress selection to yourself. It doesn’t matter if the style wouldn’t flatter even Gigi Hadid’s stunning figure, or that you wouldn’t even consider it for a Halloween costume, she obviously likes it and, it’s not about you. Get along with ALL the bridesmaids, even if you actually don’t. Set aside your differences for the sake of who this is really about, the bride. There’s enough drama surrounding a wedding without adding tension of bridesmaid’s spats. Have tissues handy at the altar, do tell the bride if her mascara runs or her lipstick needs reapplying, bustle her dress and be everything she needs you to be on her special day.
It’s always lovely receiving an invitation to a wedding, so remind the bride & groom WHY they’ve invited you by being the most gracious guest. Here are a few tips to help you out. Do not leave your RSVP to the very last day, there are too many little details for the bride to think about leading up to the big day, whether or not there will be enough chairs should not be one of them. Do not out dress the bride, this is her day to be the shiny star. Be punctual, be social with ALL the guests, particularly important at smaller weddings. As entertaining as it can be for others, do not be the guest who overindulges on the champagne cocktails and ends up dancing on tabletops. And lastly, but perhaps most importantly gift appropriately. Weddings are no small expense and don’t happen very often, so spoil the bride & groom, indulge them and treat them with a gift that will set you apart from other wedding attendees.
Here are our top picks for standout gifts this wedding season:
Professional Photo shoot Abroad
by Trip Shooter
by Gift in Time
by Savannah Hayes
by Haejin Lee Ceramics
by Gift in Time
Here’s to the making of many happy couples as we dive into this magical season! And a huge congratulations from Gift in Time to all the brides & grooms out there!